RSA Sitters for Parents
Just recently, I had been saying goodbye to a close friend in the school’s parking lot when, after bumping fists goodnight, this particular person said poignantly, “hey bro., pray for me. I’ve been fighting with my wife because I have been working too much.” When I heard that, a heaviness came over me and I realized at that moment, despite all of the increasing success RSA is experiencing with the positive growth of its members in Jiu-Jitsu, there was more that could be done for the team, but what?
The Problem: Time
In today’s demanding environment, parents, old and young, are strained by the pressures of long hours at work, extra curricular activities at school, homework, staying healthy at the gym and countless other demands that prevent parents from allotting necessary time together to strengthen their marriage.
As I reflected back on my academic years back in Utah and in graduate school, I recalled many lessons and theories regarding marriages and families. While sifting through the different ideas, the common theme of time spent with partners within positive activities was a key factor to building healthy parent relationships and, subsequently, the overall success within the nuclear family.
Through a deeper meditation, it became apparent that the problem seems to be that of time, or more specifically, quality time spent by couples to facilitate healthier marital relationships.
However, as mentioned previously, in this day and age, the challenge of setting aside time to drop the kids off at a family members home [if even available] or sitter [if able to afford it] and go on a date with a spouse, try counseling or participate in other marital building activities - is both daunting and in some cases impossible.
It Takes a Village
One of my missions in life is to help people wherever possible - with whatever resources I might have. Not just because it’s seems right but also, I have found that this is where true happiness and fulfillment resides.
At RSA, we are fortunate to have many outstanding families and individuals who want to make a difference in the lives of people around them and are willing to share their time if a good cause presents itself.
One of these people, Mano Nguyen, has encouraged RSA to move forward with this idea and create and implement the RSA SFP or Sitters For Parents, offering something we believe will have long lasting positive effects for the parents and children of our school.
The project concept and mission is simple; to give parents the opportunity to grow their relationships with the gift of time. There is no profit or secret marketing agenda for this program. We just want to use our resources to their fullest to help families, specifically, those in our circle of influence, become more solid, happier, and be more effective parents.
Perhaps, some of our parents are going through the same thing that my friend in the parking lot was going through and can finally have “just the two of you” time together. But even if your relationship is not suffering, taking the time to nurture and cherish your relationship/marriage with a night out without the kids can only further strengthen these bonds.
Every 4th Saturday of the month, RSA will organize a group of volunteer SFP staff members including parents, coaches and other members who have a history of character and personal integrity. Again, we will only allow the best of the best to help with this program.
You may view the specific date and time that our academy will be open to watch after your kids in the field above the RSVP form. We require that parents participating go out on dates, have that long over due candlelight dinner, receive counseling or any take part in any activity meant to strengthen their relationship. We also believe that helping out as a SFP volunteer facilitator with your spouse and child would also be a family strengthening activity. So, keep this as an option as well - become a SFP volunteer family.
Unique Benefits for Kids: Community
We want this to benefit more than just our parents by providing your kids with a space where they may be edified through mental and social experiences. Thus, while at the SFP, mindlessly staring at iPads, computers or movie screens will be left to plane rides.
As our project builds momentum with regularly attending participants, kids are sure to build meaningful friendships and a strong sense of community. They will also gain insight into their behavior and future life optionality while interacting with local professionals, presenting them with positive role models [see SFP Volunteer Listing below]. Your child will also be able to learn additional self-defense techniques and have fun through other wholesome activities.
SFP is free
The SFP is 100% free and like we said before, we have no other underlying intentions but to support our member families and hopefully see the fruits of our efforts and find greater personal fulfillment in our attempt to make a difference.
Ronn Shiraki, April 2018